Welcome to your healthy happy fulfilled life.
Above all else, health and fulfillment are decisions.
Having a lighthearted day is a decision.
A curious attitude is a decision.
Feeling well in the body is also a decision.
Decisions expand, change and transform the programs we have automated.
I do not need to change what goes on automatically. I do not have to decide every time, when driving a car how to switch in the specific gears – this runs without my conscious decision and that saves me a lot of time and effort.
Our brain loves automated processes – it purrs comfortably on proven tracks and everything is fine. The more frequently these lanes are used, the more natural, safer and more retractable they become. So the word “retracted” really gets a special meaning.
That’s the wonderfully energy-saving structuring of your nature.
But some of these programs you might not want, some you might not even like. Yes, some programs that shape us are even self-destructive.
There is a need for action here. Here you can make a decision.
Changes have to be decided, otherwise they usually do not happen.
- It is important to know at all that we can decide. Most have learned that whims, worldviews, daily routines, inner attitudes, etc. are not decisions, but must be accepted by fate, genetically or powerless.This is not true, as the latest research proves.We can decide each second anew – in the small loophole between our thoughts, in the bottleneck between stimulus and reaction.Conclusion: You can always decide.
- The next point is to find out what you want to decide for. My basic decision, for example, is always for a healthy, happy, fulfilled life. There is the health of the body in the boat, the joy of the heart and the depth of the soul. For me, these are the cornerstones of a good life.Some then respond, “… well, there is also loss and pain and worse … you can not always be happy …” “Yes and no” I answer. “For me, a happy life is not a superficial life. I can also be happy when I’m very sad. I had intense moments at tombs and graveyards where I felt deeply connected and fulfilled. To be happy for me means to be in unity, to feel connected, to be moved, to be touched. The only thing that really makes me unhappy is the self-made pain that we invent and use again and again, even though it does not do any good. Sometimes I’m angry too – and not really unhappy. I am connected to the power of fire, wild and impetuous. That then quickly fizzles and I’m happy in my peace again.Yesterday in the group, many have opted for ease, for peace and wildness, for a positive attitude, for courage, etc. Decide yourself.Conclusion. Find out what you want to decide for.
- The best way to check your decision is to feel it in your body. If it makes you feel good, then it is certainly right. If the body contracts or even hurts – then please check your decision.Conclusion: Check the consistency of your decisions with your body.
- The next step is to change the decision into a crisp sentence: short, positive, unique. Not like that:I choose more courage – that means yes, you do not have so much,I decide to become more joyful – it also means you have not had enough of the joyI decide not to retreat in a dispute – this implies a negative act – for the unconscious there is no negation though. If I tell you: “Don’t think of your mother – you will think of your mother.”Ideally, the sentences could be called.
I choose joy, lightness, clarity. Now!
Conclusion: Combine your decision with a crisp sentence.
- If you know what you want or where you want to go, then the next step is to think about how to learn it. The best way to link the new decision is to physical processes, preferably those that are already automated. The body memory is deeply rooted in us, while the purely intellectual memory is more volatile. Once you have learned to ride a bicycle, the body knows the movements even after a break of 20 years. They are easily retrievable.I like to suggest that the decisions, which are a very active process, are linked to getting up. We probably get up at least 20 times a day. The first time you get up in the morning – so you can get up from bed with the new decision.Conclusion: Kopple the new decision to already automated operations.
- Now you can get up 20 times with your new crisp set so that the body learns the new decision. And at some point you’ll want to get up just to hear that wonderful phrase.Conclusion: Practice the new decision with each getting up.
- Just write this sentence big and beautiful on a piece of paper and hang it wherever you get up: to the bed, to the toilet, to your breakfast chair, to your car seat, to your desk chair, to your chair or wherever. Every time you get up there repeat the sentence with an enthusiastic posture.Conclusion: Hang the sentence of your new decision in many places and bejuble him in passing.
- Keep practicing until this sentence has more effect than your previously learned automatisms. And then continue practicing the same time it took to make this new sentence stronger and more in-built than the old automatisms. Then it is safely anchored in you and you can find it from all sorts of networks, that is also from all kinds of situations on it.Conclusion: Practice the new decision until it is self-evident in you.
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